Safe Words and The Freedom To Speak

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“Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.” MLK, Jr. All of the things in life that we have no language for recede from view. And yet our inability to express the feelings and experiences that happen to us don’t make those feelings disappear entirely. Instead they take up residence in our body, manifesting in everything from anxiety …

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4 Ways to Become Sexually Free

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“Seek freedom and become captive of your desires. Seek discipline and find your liberty.”  -Frank HerbertWe often confuse the idea of doing whatever we want with true freedom. Following our every whim without a sense of responsibility for the consequences is not really freedom, but rather a poor facsimile that ends up entrapping us in unintended patterns of damaged relationships and long-term …

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Learning to Feel: 3 Ways to Save Your Sex Life

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"Let everything happen to you: beauty and terror... Just keep going. No feeling is final."-Rainier Maria Rilke We can’t choose which feelings we want to experience. What most people don’t realize in their selective attention to their feelings is that as we block our ability to feel any particular emotion, it actually impacts all of our emotional capacity, not just the things …

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Learning to Feel: The Stanford Sexual Assault

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“I was not only told that I was assaulted, I was told that because I couldn’t remember, I technically could not prove it was unwanted. And that distorted me, damaged me, and almost broke me.” –Stanford Rape SurvivorSexual assault is so common that it occurs every two minutes in this country to one in six women (and one in 33 …

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The 4 Best Benefits of Masturbation

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"Masturbation: the primary sexual activity of mankind. In the nineteenth century it was a disease; in the twentieth, it's a cure." — Thomas SzaszOf all the sexual acts on the planet, masturbation leads the way as not only the most commonly practiced and safest ways to have sex, but also as the one that most frequently and reliably ends in …

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Is Masturbation a Healthy Part of your Relationship?

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“The only thing about masturbation to be ashamed of is doing it badly.” -Sigmund FreudIt’s been over 20 years since May was named National Masturbation Month by a group of hip sex stores in response to the firing of then Surgeon General Jocelyn Elders for suggesting that masturbation would be a healthy addition to educational curriculum. It was a reasonable …

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The Conversations Which Shape A Healthful Sexuality

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“…the nearly $2 billion spent on abstinence only education over the past quarter-century may as well have been set on fire…”  Peggy OrensteinSexual health is a conversation that has been subverted for far too long. The conversations that we avoid and push underground become tainted with our own darkness and the longer that they remain out of reach, the more …

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Anal Sex, Oral Sex, and Long-Term Relationships

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I visited a friend for a night recently, and as usual we talked about sex. She told me that she and her boyfriend, with whom she has been with monogamously for about a year, started having anal sex after she brought up trying it -- she had accidentally seen a butt plug in her roommate's bedroom, and she had become fascinated by …

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Oral Sex: Understand, Improve and Appreciate It

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“Sex is a part of nature. I go along with nature.”  -Marilyn MonroeOral sex is, at once, one of the most desirable sexual experiences and the one that still carries enough discomfort to still call it taboo in some circles. There was a time when you could get arrested for it. Still, in the vast sea of sexuality, developing a …

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The Evolutionary Science and Art of the Kiss

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“A kiss is a lovely trick designed by nature to stop speech when words become superfluous.”- Ingrid BergmanKissing is the cornerstone of the intimate dance.  Fail at the kiss and whatever potential spark of romance may have existed evaporates in an instant.  And while the passion and intention that we bring to the kiss is our most immediate communication device, which …

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