The Conversations Which Shape A Healthful Sexuality

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“…the nearly $2 billion spent on abstinence only education over the past quarter-century may as well have been set on fire…”  Peggy OrensteinSexual health is a conversation that has been subverted for far too long. The conversations that we avoid and push underground become tainted with our own darkness and the longer that they remain out of reach, the more …

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Anal Sex, Oral Sex, and Long-Term Relationships

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I visited a friend for a night recently, and as usual we talked about sex. She told me that she and her boyfriend, with whom she has been with monogamously for about a year, started having anal sex after she brought up trying it -- she had accidentally seen a butt plug in her roommate's bedroom, and she had become fascinated by …

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Oral Sex: Understand, Improve and Appreciate It

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“Sex is a part of nature. I go along with nature.”  -Marilyn MonroeOral sex is, at once, one of the most desirable sexual experiences and the one that still carries enough discomfort to still call it taboo in some circles. There was a time when you could get arrested for it. Still, in the vast sea of sexuality, developing a …

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The Evolutionary Science and Art of the Kiss

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“A kiss is a lovely trick designed by nature to stop speech when words become superfluous.”- Ingrid BergmanKissing is the cornerstone of the intimate dance.  Fail at the kiss and whatever potential spark of romance may have existed evaporates in an instant.  And while the passion and intention that we bring to the kiss is our most immediate communication device, which …

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Writing My First Erotic Novel

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So, I spent the last month writing an erotic novel (under a pen name, and it isn't technically novel length; at 30,000 words, it's more a long story or novella). I wanted to see what it would be like -- I work as a writer, but I'd never before written explicitly about sex, or tried to build a story driven …

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Healthy Reasons to Make More Love

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“Wherever you are is the entry point.”  -Kabir Our sexual lives often are held apart from the considerations and habits we maintain around the rest of our health. This is an erroneous view because countless studies have confirmed that an active sex life leads to a longer life, better heart health, a healthier immune response, reduction in chronic pain symptoms, lower rates …

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Sex & Chronic Illness

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At first it may not be obvious how sex and chronic illness are related: what context could they possibly share? Yet spend any time at all not feeling well, or worse, and you’ll know intimately how sex and illness both depend completely on the body. And how, paradoxically, when the body is ailing, a desire for pleasure, any desire at …

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Everything Is Normal

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Recently I watched Emily Nagoski’s Ted Talk “Unlocking the Door to Your Authentic Sexual Wellbeing.” Whether or not you believe you have such a metaphorical door to “unlock,” I highly recommend Emily’s talk -- she’s funny, engaging, and supports her claims about sex with science.At the start of her talk, Emily shares feedback she received from students in a 1000-level sexuality course …

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Connecting & Sustaining: A How-To for Letting Go

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Today is President’s Day in the US, which means most of us are at work and post offices are closed -- you can put off mailing your income taxes for another day. The holiday doesn’t give you a good excuse for putting off starting your taxes, but don’t panic: in this post we’re going to suggest that you relax. We’re also …

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Turning Around the Sexless Life

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"So she thoroughly taught him that one cannot take pleasure without giving pleasure, and that every gesture, every caress, every touch, every glance, every last bit of the body has its secret, which brings happiness to the person who knows how to wake it..." -Herman Hesse Here is the sad truth about sex in many long-term partnerships; it is either the …

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