Expecting Pleasure

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“We erase female pleasure…it puts girls not only at a disadvantage in terms of having a satisfying sexual experience but also just having an equal relationship.” Peggy Orenstein“He liked it.  That’s enough for me.”  Our mothers said it about sex, as did our grandmothers. And yet disturbingly, our thoroughly modern daughters whose evolution and potential has dramatically risen, with higher earning …

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The Sensations Of Pleasure

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“What we learn with pleasure we never forget.”  Alfred MercierLearning to feel pleasure begins with cultivating our capacity to experience the world through our senses. Sensuality is really nothing more than connecting to your senses deeply. And it is in the smallest of sensations that this practice comes alive. But often in our day-to-day, we lose touch with the physical …

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Self-Pleasure – 4 Ways To Be Sexier

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“The only thing about masturbation to be ashamed of is doing it badly.” –Sigmund FreudShared pleasure depends on one’s capacity to pleasure themselves, which is why most sex therapists refer to the practice of masturbation as the foundation of sexual health. And just for the record, masturbation is the most common sexual practice on the planet. It is not just …

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3 Ways to Feel More Pleasure

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“Pleasure is the object, duty and the goal of all rational creatures.”  VoltaireBathe in your sensesPleasure is entirely dependent on our physical capacity to experience the world through our senses. We open to pleasure when we become deliberate about learning more about our capacity to see, hear, feel, smell, and taste. Doing this is easier than you might think: …

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Safe Words and The Freedom To Speak

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“Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.” MLK, Jr. All of the things in life that we have no language for recede from view. And yet our inability to express the feelings and experiences that happen to us don’t make those feelings disappear entirely. Instead they take up residence in our body, manifesting in everything from anxiety …

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4 Ways to Become Sexually Free

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“Seek freedom and become captive of your desires. Seek discipline and find your liberty.”  -Frank HerbertWe often confuse the idea of doing whatever we want with true freedom. Following our every whim without a sense of responsibility for the consequences is not really freedom, but rather a poor facsimile that ends up entrapping us in unintended patterns of damaged relationships and long-term …

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Learning to Feel: 3 Ways to Save Your Sex Life

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"Let everything happen to you: beauty and terror... Just keep going. No feeling is final."-Rainier Maria Rilke We can’t choose which feelings we want to experience. What most people don’t realize in their selective attention to their feelings is that as we block our ability to feel any particular emotion, it actually impacts all of our emotional capacity, not just the things …

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Learning to Feel: The Stanford Sexual Assault

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“I was not only told that I was assaulted, I was told that because I couldn’t remember, I technically could not prove it was unwanted. And that distorted me, damaged me, and almost broke me.” –Stanford Rape SurvivorSexual assault is so common that it occurs every two minutes in this country to one in six women (and one in 33 …

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The 4 Best Benefits of Masturbation

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"Masturbation: the primary sexual activity of mankind. In the nineteenth century it was a disease; in the twentieth, it's a cure." — Thomas SzaszOf all the sexual acts on the planet, masturbation leads the way as not only the most commonly practiced and safest ways to have sex, but also as the one that most frequently and reliably ends in …

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Is Masturbation a Healthy Part of your Relationship?

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“The only thing about masturbation to be ashamed of is doing it badly.” -Sigmund FreudIt’s been over 20 years since May was named National Masturbation Month by a group of hip sex stores in response to the firing of then Surgeon General Jocelyn Elders for suggesting that masturbation would be a healthy addition to educational curriculum. It was a reasonable …

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