Three Easy Ways to a Harvest of the Heart

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“Enlightenment is intimacy with all things.”  -Jack Kornfield I remain convinced that at the end of the day, at the end of our life, the only thing we are going to count is the people we loved and those who loved us back.   I have heard that the final moments of consciousness are a rush of memories, images that have been …

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Fairness As Love’s Currency

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“Fairness does not mean everyone gets the same. Fairness means everyone gets what they need.”  -Rick Riordan Fairness is a value construct that is inborn into all of us. Even the smallest of children recognize and bear witness to experiences of injustice among their peers. This very human urge towards making things fair is one of the fundamental ways that love acts as …

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Three Questions to Awaken Our Capacity for Life

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“We do not learn by experience, but by our capacity for experience.”  -The Buddha Here is one of the great truths of life that many of us are missing in the constant search for something new- is that experience alone too often leaves us empty. Instead, it is our attention, curiosity and opening that we bring to our life experiences that …

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Angels in Disguise

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“Nobody's perfect. We're all just one step up from the beasts and one step down from the angels.”-   Jeannette Walls Years ago at one of the last adult shows I attended my Good Clean Love booth was next to the Angels, Buck the Transman porn star and his wife Elaine  author of the Piercing Bible.  At first glance, this couple …

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Yoga of Relationships: Asana of Love- Becoming a Warrior of Love

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I have been preaching the gospel of learning to stay in our relationships for close to a decade, but only recently have learned for myself how the lessons of staying with the hard places in relationship are most deeply integrated through the work of the body.  Learning how to hold our selves in the Warrior/ Virabhadrasana 1 pose provides a …

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Chrysalis of Transformation

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"The mark of your ignorance is the depth of your belief in injustice and tragedy. What the caterpillar calls the end of the world, the Master calls the butterfly." -Richard Bach
 I recently learned that the transformation of the caterpillar to a butterfly isn’t just about the effort of spinning their cocoon. Once inside, the caterpillar literally liquefies in its metamorphosis to …

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Stop the Cutting

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“Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed, citizens can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has.” -Margaret Mead The deep abiding mistrust of female sexuality makes the world go round. For us in the West, we know this space as an inability to orgasm, the loss of desire and the fear of getting too …

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For Love or Money

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“Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.” -The Dalai Lama XIV It is an odd and painful irony that often just as things are really coming together successfully in life, we often lose touch with the love that had inspired us to get there. We expect just the opposite. In our longings for …

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Five Starting Points to Heal Your Future

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“The wound is the place where the Light enters you.”  -RumiWe are a wounded bunch, we humans, and yet we are entering a new possibility of healing on this planet that is calling all of us to open up our wounds to the light. I know that transformation of our pain is possible, that forgiveness is a real thing and …

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Healing Family

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 “Forgiveness is the final form of love.” –Reinhold Niebuhr Not long ago at a conference, a woman I was sitting with was saying how happy she is to have no contact with her children. The next day, another woman was describing what a relief it was to no longer communicate with her mother. These comments are not unusual. In fact, according to Dr. …

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