3 Ways Not To Be Disappointed This Valentine’s Day

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“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.” Lao TzuThere are more breakups associated with the Valentine’s Holiday than any other—mostly due to all of our perceived slights and disappointments that happen every day are on full display on that day. Like children waiting for Santa, we hold high hopes that the gifts, …

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3 Ways To Welcome Non-Ordinary Sex

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“The way you make love is the way God will be with you.”  RumiOne of the great mysteries in life is the way in which our sexual encounters, especially the most memorable and passionate ones, live outside of normal space and time. It’s almost as if time stands still and bends itself around the encounter. Minutes that fly by in a …

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4 Ways To Turn On Arousal

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‘I tell you, the more I think, the more I feel that there is nothing more truly artistic than to love people.’ Vincent Van Gogh The arousal response is your body’s natural mechanism for accessing pleasure. Although often confused with the genital swelling that accompanies our arousal response, the ignition for our arousal lives in the sexiest organ of our body- …

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4 Ways to Clarify our Pleasure

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“More important than the quest for certainty is the quest for clarity.” -Francois Gautier While we all want pleasure, most of us don’t understand why our pleasure response gets blocked or even how to ignite it. So here are four steps to turn on your libido, enlarge your experience of sex and trust the intelligence of your heart.Start with an Empty MindIf …

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Seeking Orgasmic Pleasure

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"The pleasure of living and the pleasure of the orgasm are identical. Extreme orgasm anxiety forms the basis of the general fear of life."
- Wilhelm ReichSome of my most vivid memories of my early sex life are not of the satisfying post coitus elated release, but of their opposite. It is hard to forget the many times when sex was …

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Seeking True Pleasure

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“Pleasure is the object, duty and the goal of all rational creatures.”  -Voltaire The New Year is a good time to re-think our ideas about pleasure. In our culture, so focused on instant gratification, it is easy to lose sight of what creates a long-lasting and deeply healing experience of pleasure. While instant gratification does feed our brains a dopamine response …

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Why Slow Sex Down – 5 Tips To Bridge The Orgasm Gap

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“The behavior of a human being in sexual matters is often a prototype for the whole of his other modes of reaction in life.” Sigmund Freud There are many good reasons to slow sex down but without question, the most meaningful is that we can bridge the orgasm gap through extending lovemaking time. The orgasm gap is the misunderstood and often overlooked …

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Savor Sex Like A Three Course Meal

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“We think fast food is equivalent to pornography, nutritionally speaking.”  -Steve ElberAs a culture, our diet often suffers from the overwhelming demands of schedule and time constraints; we pick up food on the run and call it a meal. Even when we take the time to prepare a meal at home, we often eat it in front of a screen, …

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EASY: A Good Clean Love Take

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“Only work on stuff you love … when I don’t, I fight with my wife a lot more, I’m snippy with my kid.” Joe Swanberg, creator of EASY  Seems like every time I turn around this week, I have been hearing the word “easy”… from my phone which continues to light up with texts from old friends I haven’t heard from …

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When Bad Sex Is Normal

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“Ultimately, the desire for a deeper human connection always wins out, for both men and women.” Hanna RosinOne of the questions I’ve been asked a lot lately is, why are so many millennials having bad sex? Which for the record, is not just true about millennials. However, it is alarming to hear that 44% of women between 16-21 to report …

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The World According to Dr. Ruth

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“OK, so I am old fashioned … call me square.” Dr. RuthI grew up listening to Dr. Ruth’s frank talk on late-night radio in New York. Back then no one was talking about topics like masturbation or oral sex, and her straight answers to questions I didn’t yet know how to ask were both encouraging and comforting as I waded …

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